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THANK YOU! for your interest in this subject matter and in my story. INTENT: #support for the #significant_others of #transsexuals and #transgender, to #advocate the necessity of being your authentic self, and to share information with others. By this, I hope to support your own journey, or add to your understanding of the journey of someone you know. ABOUT ME: A 45 year old #heterosexual woman, divorced w/children, I met Jack and fell in love. Six years into our relationship, he confided his secret desire--Jack wanted to be a woman. Before his disclosure, I had no reason to suspect his interest. It was a shocking surprise! It was the decade of the 1990's. Little information was available to help ME understand 'Why' and 'What next". Not only was Jack in transition, but by virtue of the circumstance, so was I. Guided by my heart, I began a journey of my own. Stepping out of my comfort zone I challenged my attitudes and belief systems, as well as, my own sexual orientation to help me decide 'Do I stay, or do I go"?

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Wednesday, October 23, 2013

"I have no one I can talk to. I cannot tell friends or family. They won't understand."

When you first learn of your husband or boyfriend's desire to become female, you may not have had any idea at all that he felt this way. If your experience is at all like mine, you initially feel betrayed, confused, and angry. You are downright scared to death for what it all means to your relationship.

For me, I knew no one in my family or social circle would understand. There was no one I felt I could talk to. I began to try to reach out for information and education, for books, counselors, anyone who could explain it to me.

I am available to answer your questions. Feel free to ask. Please see the "where did you find support topic for other resources". If you cannot get on the blog to post a question or comment, e-mail me. I answer all questions. Know, that you are not alone. Reach out. #SO, #significant_other, #husband, #boyfriend, #Trans, #Transsexual, #M2F, #F2M, #LGBT, #support+wife, #No+one+to+talk+to #TeenTrans #friends #family #communication #betrayal #confusion #adjustmentdisorientation

1 comment:

  1. I felt like I had been run over by a truck. More than surprised, I was in shock. Friends and family were not gay, some where not even gay-tolerant because of religious and personal views. I realized I wouldn't be able to talk to them, or anyone I knew about the subject. I would have to find answers to my questions on my own. Even living in a City that embraced the LGBT community, my exposure to M2F TS was waiting for a light at the corner on Polk and California Street on a dark night on the way to the Lumiere Theater. "Big hair and lots of make-up, dressed in woman's clothes." I viewed such persons with curiosity. But not with understanding. Was this J's vision for self? How could it be? What was driving him to want to do such a thing? It was mind-bending, inexplicable. Any answers to my questions, I would have to search out on my own. This subject was still "taboo" and "behind closed doors" -- Searching for answers without support was an arduous, lonely, and isolating experience. If you are finding your lover, your friend, a family member is planning TS transition, and you don't understand, don't have support, or know where to find answers, please ask questions. I am willing to share my experience. I believe it is through information and education that we can develop understanding and acceptance.